Spooky season!

I love ghosts. I love scary movies. I love teen girls hunting to solve mysteries. Which is why I have so much fun writing the Daphne and Velma series for Scholastic! (Book 2, THE DARK DECEPTION, is out now, and I recently turned in book 3, coming summer 2021!)

Recently, I got to be a guest on a great podcast about reading: NPR’s STEM Read podcast, where host Gillian King-Cargile asked me about the history of ghosts in literature and why Scooby Doo continues to attract fans. I was super excited to also hear from Edgar Cantero, whose book Meddling Kids has been on my to-be-read list for ages, and dime novel expert Sata Prescott.

Tune in here for our discussion, or search for STEM Read in your podcast provider of choice!

New things to listen to!

Two exciting new audio opportunities for readers and/or folks interested in social media, technology, politics, and YA lit:

THE HIVE is now available in audiobook!

Read by Devon Sorvari and released by Tantor Media, The Hive on audio is a solid 11-hour (!!!) distraction from the state of the world. (Or…is it? Because a lot of what’s happening on social media right now is kind of reflected in THE HIVE…)

You can purchase it here.

Next, in exciting news…

Barry and I were on Recode with Kara Swisher!

We had a fantastic conversation with host Kara Swisher (about four days before NYC went on lockdown, so you can imagine the weird vibe that day on Wall Street) about social media, teen reading habits, and cancel culture, and so much more. Listen here or wherever you get your podcasts.

So, grab your headphones and dive in. Let me know what you think.

Stay safe and happy summer.

Finding the Way Home

One of the most inspiring projects I’ve ever worked on has recently come to fruition — and I’m so, so proud to have been a part of it.

FINDING THE WAY HOME is a companion book I wrote for the forthcoming HBO Documentary of the same name, published by Scholastic. Both are a series of case studies highlighting some of the 8 million institutionalized children throughout the world and the work Lumos and its partner organizations are doing to solve this completely solvable problem.

I remain forever in awe at the work J.K. Rowling, Founder and Life President of Lumos, has done in creating Lumos and assembling a team that is literally improving the world, child by child and family by family. Please visit wearelumos.org to learn more — and tune in to HBO on December 18 to watch the film’s premier.

Teaching resources

Lots of teachers assign YA novels to their high school and college students, and now, KCP Loft has put together a teaching guide for THE HIVE.

It’s a really helpful guide — with media links that inspired us to write the book, background on how our collaboration worked, and lots of questions and prompts for readers.

And, while I’m talking about THE HIVE, check out how Hachette is using it throughout their US offices as part of their #HachetteReads program. Cool!

THE HIVE in PEOPLE Magazine!

I took my daughter to Denver for a little girls’ trip this week, leaving my husband home with our 2-year-old son. We had the best time meeting the mermaids at the Denver Aquarium and making bubbles at the Denver Children’s Museum; then, I got a text from my husband. CHECK YOUR EMAIL. SERIOUSLY! He wrote, along with some celebratory emoji.

So I did.

It turns out, PEOPLE Magazine named our book, THE HIVE, one of their Best Fall Books of the year.

Of course, I’m thrilled, and humbled. (And in stunning company — look at those names!)

Thank you to PEOPLE Magazine and all the early readers of THE HIVE. The book is officially out in just a few days!

We have a cover!

I’m thrilled to share the cover to THE HIVE, the YA thriller I wrote with my husband, Barry Lyga! This cover was a long time coming. In fact, after countless versions of it, we landed back on the very first one the designer, Emma Dolan, created. Ironic!

Check out the cover reveal and giveaway over on YA Books Central and pre-order the book on Amazon.

The Hive

Available wherever books are sold 9/3/19

Book announcement!

I've been writing, including ghostwriting, for a while. And so many times, I've been so close to a book deal. 

Now I finally get to announce one. (Bonus: it's co-written with my husband, Barry Lyga!) 

From The Hollywood Reporter: Jennifer Beals-Inspired YA novel Set for 2019

My year in books: 2017

No prologue can explain a year like 2017. It was tough. I had a baby. I participated in the resistance. I worked. I wrote a book that I can't talk about yet, and which -- because I was writing every morning and (most evenings) on my commute to my real job -- means I read a lot less this year. 

So my year in books is a bit...lackluster? I'm about 20 books behind my usual rate, which feels like a really sad showing, but of course, sometimes, there are things more important than reading (!). And I'm able to look back at the year with genuine satisfaction in my bones. 

Several books that I started and didn't finish due to lack of interest are not listed here, because that's mean. And per usual, this list doesn't include the THOUSANDS of stories I read my kids, and the drafts I read of my husband's work. Also, I bought a ton of books this year, and they are all queued up on my Kindle. Like, dozens. I can't wait to get started on them.

Here's what I read, mostly in order from January through December: 

1. Superficial by Andy Cohen
2. The X Files Origins: Devil's Advocate by Jonathan Mayberry
3. Sons and Daughters of Ease and Plenty by Ramona Ausubel
4. How to Party with an Infant by Kaui Hart Hemmings
5. The Graces by Laura Eve
6. The Good Sleeper by Janet Kennedy
7. The Trespasser by Tana French
8. Eleven Hours by Pamela Erens
9. The X Files Origins: Agent of Chaos by Kami Garcia
10. Whole 30 by Melissa Hartwig and Dallas Hartwig
11. Saints for All Occasions by J. Courtney Sullivan
12. Oh Crap! Potty Training by Jamie Glowacki
13. Wild Swans by Jessica Spotswood
14. Faithful Place by Tana French
15. Broken Harbor by Tana French
16. The Widow's House by Carol Goodman
17. Startup by Doree Shafrir
18. The Regulars by Georgia Clark
19. The Futures by Anna Pitoniak
20. Perennials by Mandy Berman
21. Written on His Skin by Simone Stark
22. When Dimple Met Rishi by Sandhya Menon
23. Gather the Daughters by Jennie Melamed
24. Hello, Sunshine by Laura Dave
25. Bonfire by Krysten Ritter

Some quick stats: 25 books, 5 YA (which is a serious record for me...I usually have MUCH more), 4 nonfiction, 1 romance. Some favorites: Tana French. I'd been told for years I should read her, and this year I finally did, and I am now obsessed. Gather the Daughters was insanely well written, but so, so hard to read. Both X Files books were enjoyable (and this week, the show returns!).And I loved, loved, loved Andy Cohen's book, which is exactly what 10-months-pregnant-me needed.

Anyway, thanks again to the writers who offered distractions, inspiration, and a reason to turn off Housewives and go to bed. (To read.)

Happy New Year. 

Ballet shoes

I have to buy a leotard and tights for my daughter's first dance class. Any solid color, they say, but I have been too scarred by Sweet Valley Twins book 1, where Jessica gets positively ruined by her (French) ballet instructor for wearing a purple leo. I cannot relegate my daughter to the fate of Jessica Wakefield, so I veer towards the pale pinks, the blacks, the neutrals.

Her hair must be away from her face, which is perhaps my biggest challenge. My daughter, she who barely had any hair until she turned two, now has fine, shiny hair that falls out of barrettes and slides out of rubber bands. I cut her bangs short, her hair into a bob, but then I'm lulled by visions of the princesses she loves and let it all grow out. Now, she spends most of her time tilting her head back and pushing her hair off her face so she can see. I beg her to let me tie it in ponytails. Like all of toddlerhood, sometimes I lose the battles. 

Yesterday, when my almost-three year old woke up and I opened her bedroom door to greet her, I was struck speechless by her. She has become a big girl, and it happened overnight. Her pudgy toddler legs have elongated and thinned out. Her round toddler belly is shrinking. She holds real conversations now. Each weeknight she grabs my face and asks me "Mama, how was work?" with genuine interest in her voice. Then she brushes my own hair, not fine and shiny like hers, off my face so she can kiss my nose. 

And soon I will dress her in a leotard and tights, in ballet shoes and buns. Saturday mornings will become our special time, where she and I leave the boys behind. What if she hates it? I wonder. What if she eschews the things I loved as a kid? The dance classes and recitals and, best of all, the competitions. The backstages with their haze of hairspray. The turned ankles. The hours, the days, the years. 

But, I then think, what if she loves it? 

Spring, concluding

A banner floated between two trees on the front lawn of our town hall, congratulating the high school graduates. Moments before spying it I had been walking my three month old through the park, where hot pink azaleas dotted the green walking paths; where a preschool had let loose its pack of toddlers. They ran through the grass, plucking wildflowers and shrieking. 

This new town of ours has become our home, and suddenly I saw it all laid out before me like a map: how my own toddler, just like the ones in the park, will all too soon be one of those high school graduates being cheered on at town hall; how my own infant will all too soon become one of those toddlers. How proud I am of these two beings already; how emotional it is to be a parent and how silly I feel for being so emotional.  

Spring is normally my least favorite season but this one seems to have some new sparkle to it, a sheen I can't shake. Maybe it's me coming out of the newborn fog and back into real life. On my walks with my son I am buoyed by the flowers and gardens and sounds of landscaping. The hum of lawn mowers lulls him to sleep. There is so much beauty and promise. 

I return to work next week, and I love working. I love my office, I love having a career where I can be creative and imaginative and affect people. I get a lot of satisfaction out of my work life and I'm looking forward to heading back. But wow, I'm missing these days already. 

There was once a night way back in the mid-aughts, another lifetime ago, when I was drinking at a surf-themed bar in Sri Lanka and I had to physically step back, pause, and draw the scene into my brain so I could make a lasting memory. Even as I was trying to be present, I was already escaping into what my narrative about my time in that country would be, how I was drinking local beer at a bar that wanted desperately to have a California vibe. I knew I would probably never be in that country again, and certainly never in that bar. I would definitely never be with that group of people again. So I had to mark it down. I had to make sure I would remember it. 

And I suppose that's what I'm feeling now as my final days of leave in a blooming spring pass me by -- like I'm building the story of my maternity leave as I live out my last days of it. Like I need to make memories even before the days have finished. There are lots of "lasts" happening. My second and final baby will never be as tiny as he is now. My smart and sweet toddler will never be so toddler-like again, with her round belly and sturdy, active legs. I will likely never have this unstructured time with them again, this freedom.

Instead of signaling rebirth, this spring is, for me, a conclusion. 

6 weeks later

Hey, I had that baby I was whining about. Finally! 

Related: If you ever want to feel like a superhero, have a baby so fast that there's no time for an epidural. Push three times. Discover your baby is almost nine pounds. Celebrate what your body can do, what it just did.

Anyway, some observations: 

Motherhood, part 2

How different baby #2 is from the first time around! Of course, the babies themselves are different -- they are each unique beings, after all -- but it's mostly me that's changed, chilled. And the changes in me have made all the difference. Motherhood is much more pleasant now; my days with a newborn are much more enjoyable. Now, when I'm up all night, my back and upper arms sore from rocking this little guy to sleep, I have a new mantra: "It's all temporary." This bad stuff only lasts a few weeks (months, really). Which is doable. As my sister always says, you can handle anything when you know there's an end date. 

This is not to say that the hormones didn't crush me, that sometimes I collapsed in tears and wondered aloud why I did this again, how I would adjust, what would happen to me, my career, my life. That still happened. But it's okay. Time passes and those feelings get absorbed into new lines on your body, new plans, new valuations.  

Maternity leave, part 2

The first time around I didn't know what to do. Like...do we just look at the baby all day? Change its diaper and feed it? And the answer, I discovered, was yes. But it felt wrong. I felt slothful. I felt like I was wasting time. 

So this time I'm much more relaxed about it all. My house is messier. I wear ten-year-old tee shirts that really have no business still being in rotation. I haven't made my bed in weeks. But I am enjoying the heck out of cuddling this babe. I meet other moms and their newborns -- for coffee, for yoga, for breakfast, for margaritas. I visit family. I eat lunch out. 

The final act

When you know you're done having babies, you allow yourself the freedom to enjoy every part of the process. The pain, the incredible sleep deprivation, all the worries and fears that come with motherhood -- you just kind of acknowledge the process and trust things will work out. 

So here I am, a mom of two. A wife. A suburb-dweller. A professional. A writer. Finding out ways to make sure these can all coexist. 

41 weeks

At 4am today I found myself considering googling "how do I surrender" because I think maybe that's why I'm still pregnant.

I have been pregnant for a long time, enough time to find and buy a house and a car, decorate it, host all the major holidays, and witness what feels like the beginning of our country's demise. My desperation to birth this baby seeps through the various keyboards I use, with embarassing browser histories that I'll delete when (if?) I finally go into labor. It turns out, the underbelly of the internet isn't porn, or crime, or ISIS recruiting; it's overdue women seeking to evict their babies.

I've begun folding myself back into bed on weekday mornings after sending my toddler off to day care and listening to questionable labor-inducing visualizations on YouTube. (Who here is surprised they haven't worked yet?) I've purchased castor oil, but haven't yet found the strength (desperation?) to try it, though I get closer every day. I walk. I do the "labor dance" (again, thanks to YouTube). I do so many squats each day that my butt looks better than it ever did pre-pregnancy. I eat whole pineapples. I eat spicy foods even though I don't like spicy foods. I eat eggplant, which is nice because I love eggplant. I massage labor-inducing pressure points. I lie on the couch, moaning with boredom, and watch season 2 of Laguna Beach on demand, because there is literally nothing else on. 

It is particularly interesting to be pregnant this long when your first pregnancy came right on time. I don't know these feelings, this swinging from acceptance to rage based on the time of day. With my first I didn't have to have these long pleading talks with my baby in utero. She just came. My water broke and then contractions started and then we went to the hospital and I pushed and she was on my chest, her hair tickling my neck. Now, I've had contractions and false starts for literal weeks. I've had multiple membrane sweeps. I stare off into the distance and try to remember what it feels like to not be pregnant, to have full agency over this body, to not be in pain all day, every day. 

I feel sloth-like and pathetic, and sad for myself. Reading the news makes me feel worse, but avoiding the news makes me feel responsible for the impending war we all know is coming. I am hyperbolic and yet fully confident that things in this country, this world, will get much worse before they get better. And this is why I think it's my fault that I haven't had my baby yet. Because I don't want him to have to deal with this place, and I don't want any easy excuse -- dealing with a newborn -- as the reason I can't march, protest, resist. 

But this is not sustainable. 

So at four in the morning I woke up from a Walking Dead nightmare, which is surprising because I stopped watching that show last year. In the darkness I tried to have a real, true heart-to-heart with my boy. I apologized for whatever subconscious stuff I'm projecting onto him that's making him stay put. I relaxed my jaw, meditated, breathed deep, envisioned things opening. I tried to envision world peace, too, but that is more difficult to see than my newborn's face. 

And then I got up and ate some pineapple. Again. 

My Year in Books: 2016

This year was a horrible one by any stretch of the word, of course. In these past few weeks since the sham of an election we had, books have been my saving grace; one of two things that've kept me afloat, kept me sane. (The other is parenthood which, with all its tedium and chores and capacity for awe and joy, keeps me grounded and reminds me what we need to fight for, and why.)

There's nothing groundbreaking about saying books save people but that doesn't make it any less true. So I am grateful, again and eternally, for all the people who work to put books out in the world: the writers, the editors, the marketers, the printers, the designers, the publicists, the many many teams that help produce a single book. Thank you for distracting me, for inspiring me, for pushing me forward.

And 2016 wasn't ALL terrible; just the whole of it. We bought a house and I am in love with it, still. I got pregnant again (our boy is coming any week now...). I watched my daughter turn into the sweetest, funniest, smartest two year old you've ever seen. I re-established an old friendship that I missed. I learned, I grew, I loved. And I read.

Here are the books I read in 2016, in approximately the order I read them:

1. My Brilliant Friend by Elana Ferrante
2. Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire by J.K. Rowling
3. The Girls at the Kingfisher Club by Genevieve Valentine
4. Spinster by Kate Bolick
5. The Clasp by Sloane Crosley
6. The Witches by Stacy Schiff
7. Tiny Pretty Things by Sona Charaipotra and Dhonielle Clayton
8. Food Whore by Jessica Tom
9. The Forgotten Room by Beatriz Williams, Karen White, Lauren Willig
10. Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes
11. Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert
12. Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix by J.K. Rowling
13. Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince by J.K. Rowling
14. Seven Year Switch by Claire Cook
15. The Mermaid's Sister by Carrie Anne Noble
16. The Nest by Cynthia D'Aprix Sweeney
17. How to Be Bad by Lauren Myracle, Sarah Mylnowski and Emily Jenkins
18. The Reece Malcolm List by Amy Spalding
19. Eligible by Curtis Sittenfeld
20. Vivian Apple at the End of the World by Katie Coyle
21. Rosemary: The Hidden Kennedy Daughter by Kate Clifford Larson
22. Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows by J.K. Rowling
23. Dumplin' by Julie Murphy
24. Vivian Apple Needs a Miracle by Katie Coyle
25. American Girls: Social Media and the Secret Life of Teenagers by Nancy Jo Sales
26. Harry Potter and the Cursed Child Parts 1 and 2 by J.K. Rowling, Jack Thorne, and John Tiffany
27. Mary: The Summoning by Hillary Monahan
28. Sweetbitter by Stephanie Danler
29. The Diviners by Libba Bray
30. Lair of Dreams by Libba Bray
31. The After Party by Anton DiSclafani
32. A Certain Age by Beatriz Williams
33. Modern Lovers by Emma Straub
34. The First Time She Drowned by Kerry Kletter
35. Rich and Pretty by Rumaan Alam
36. Invincible Summer by Alice Adams
37. Tumbling by Caela Carter
38. Everybody Rise by Stephanie Clifford
39. You Will Know Me by Megan Abbot
40. The Hopefuls by Jennifer Close
41. Between You and Me by Emma McLaughlin and Nicola Kraus
42. Shadow House by Dan Poblocki
43. Act Like It by Lucy Parker
44. The Thousandth Floor by Katharine McGee
45. How to Hang a Witch by Adriana Mather
46. Everything We Keep by Kerry Lonsdale
47. The Wild Robot by Peter Brown
48. Ghosts by Raina Telgemeier
49. Between You and Me: Confessions of a Comma Queen by Mary Norris
50. The Lottery's Plus One by Emma Donoghue
51. Commonwealth by Ann Patchett
52. Today Will Be Different by Maria Semple
53. Songs Without Words by Ann Patchett

Some of my favorites of the year.

I had several stops and starts this year (and every year), with books I just couldn't get into after 50 pages or so. And obviously, this list doesn't include the hundreds of books I've read to my kid, or the Baby-sitters Club titles I still pick up when I need some soothing. Too, it doesn't include readings of my husband's drafts.

Of this list, my favorites include The Girls at the Kingfisher Club, Sweetbitter, Eligible, Rosemary: The Hidden Kennedy Daughter, The Lottery's Plus One, Commonwealth, and Today Will Be Different.

All told, I read 53 books, with 21 of them classified as YA or Middle Grade and 6 classified as nonfiction (which may be a record for me!). 

I used NPR's Book Concierge to get started on my list of books to read in 2017. I'll be on maternity leave for the first half of the year which, if it's anything like my first maternity leave, means I won't get much reading done for a while. But here's to hoping. Now more than ever, we need books.

Happy holidays and Happy New Year.

This week

I spend too much money at Dean & Deluca, simply because they often have good (expensive) soups and they're right across the street from my office, and these days I have pregnancy cravings that aren't quite cravings (like, I know I want something but I don't know what it is) so I wander around stores a lot. On Wednesday I was browsing the aisles through a particularly crowded D&D and every time I saw a coworker I averted my eyes, pretended to be on my phone, pretended the $12 boxes of plain crackers were suddenly incredibly interesting. 

I cried in the soup line.

I spent that day after the apocalypse in hiding. I came to work and closed my office door, told my team I couldn't handle any face-to-face dealings, and reminded them I had a bottle of gin if they needed to imbibe. I hadn't slept; I hadn't eaten. My eyes were red. I had some visitors that day, each of whom cried with me. We hugged. And when I watched Hillary's speech, I sobbed, over and over, like I haven't sobbed since my grandmother's death. 

Things weren't much better at home, where my two year old would look at me with her big eyes and I would find myself at a loss for words. Where my husband was so gutted we didn't eat dinner; we didn't turn on the television. 

Since then I've processed a bit more. I've come to some decisions -- longer-term stuff about what I can do, where I can go, to make sure the more vulnerable among us are safe. A plan I had has been obliterated because of some policies Trump has promised to enact, but I've come up with alternate plans. I'm a lucky one, a privileged one. 

I won't forget the horrible moments of this week. And I don't want to forget the fear I feel right now. I hope my numbness turns to passion, to rage even, soon, so that I can get to work.  

Meanwhile, I hope I won't forget the small moments of kindness, either. And there have been some that have lifted me, that have carried me just far enough away from this shock, this trauma -- and yes, this election feels very much like a trauma -- to let me remember that I will process this eventually, and that we will start our real revolution. 

Suburb life

The rhythms of my life have changed since our move to the suburbs. I wake up earlier, commute longer, get to work later. I have less time to cuddle with my toddler on the couch in the mornings, when her bedhead hair tickles my chin as she nestles into me, drinking her milk and laughing at Sesame Street. She goes to bed later, now, to compensate for my later return time. I'm pregnant again, and between the exhaustion of moving and the fatigue that should have disappeared a few weeks ago and the incessant heat, I end up collapsing on our couch, unable to summon the energy to even order a new rug, every night. 

So things are different, but better, if you ask me. 

We have a house now and it is glorious. Today I worked from home, sitting alone up in our third floor attic-guest room-my office, sitting in a new desk and chair my husband just put together for me, next to a trio of windows offering a view of greenery, of rooftops, of birds landing on my garage, waiting for rain. On Saturday I sat in our yard, resting my feet in my kid's baby pool while she occupied herself for a solid 45 minutes -- if you are a parent you understand what an achievement this is -- and stared in awe at how much she has grown, at how much joy she brings to us.  

It's a long summer. The world, from a grand perspective, is terrible. Things everywhere are crumbling. So tonight I am marveling at how I'm still able to find pieces of good things, small places where things are not just okay but wonderful, in this kind of climate. I hope you all do, too. 

A Brooklyn goodbye

I never loved Brooklyn the way you're supposed to. I love the park -- truly a slice of perfection in this city -- but Brooklyn itself, its rhythms and noises, just never felt like home to me. And I've moved before, from apartments I've loved and some I've hated, from neighborhood to neighborhood, changing bodegas and drugstores every two years. But we're moving next week, and this move is different. It's permanent. 

Around the corner from our almost-former place. 

Tonight I sat on the floor of my toddler's bedroom (this is a Thing we have to do now to get her to go to sleep occasionally) and stayed there, not making eye contact with her, for ten minutes. Ten minutes is a long time to sit silently with no phone or entertainment. So I thought about all the things I will miss about this place, about Brooklyn. 

This is the apartment where I labored on the living room floor, knowing it was too early to go to the hospital but demanding we go anyway. This is the apartment where I brought my baby home, where she learned to roll over and sit up and toddle and walk and talk. ("Let's GO! is a favorite refrain.) And now it's time to leave it behind. 

The closing of a house, the organizing of minor construction and painting and cleaning, the finding of daycares and pediatricians, the bills and bookings and phone calls -- all of it means every day has brought with it a full checklist of things to do, the kind of days that keep you up at night. So the leaving itself snuck up on me. But here we are, just a few days away, and already some goodbyes have happened without my acknowledging them.

Today I finally starting counting things off: my last commute on the F train, my last trip to the coffee shop around the corner, my last days with a New York license. Last, final, done. 

But next week starts all the firsts. 

Teen, Seventeen, and YM Magazines from 1991-1993

I published a piece on Hello Giggles about binge-reading some old teen magazines from the 90s. It was super fun to write -- I seriously had the best time re-reading these old issues. 

I had a bunch of reactions to them that didn't make it into the final essay on Hello Giggles so I thought I'd share them here. 

Teen Magazine: June 1990, December 1991, December 1993

If you’re a woman of a certain age, do this experiment: block off an hour in your calendar and Google “vintage Teen magazines.” See how long you last before you, too, end up whipping out a credit card. Because there is something addictive about Teen; with its straight-up neon color palette, the covers don’t just beckon you; they scream. They rap. They are a high-wattage high school musical in print form.

My prime Teen years were 1989 to 1992, and it’s not an exaggeration to say that I remember every cover—the pinks, the patterns, the bold lips and bigger earrings. Something about those covers feels like home to me. Even now, I want to wallpaper my apartment with them in an attempt to siphon off the energy coming from their pages, the optimism and cheer. Forget coffee; a glance at a Teen cover is all the pep you need to get you through your day.

The thesis of Teen seemed to be that your teenage years are, above all else, fun. Though I couldn’t formulate this back then, I appreciated that notion when I was a pre-teen; it made me less scared. The magazines were busy, a veritable onslaught of ads and advice columns. The models were thin but mostly of average shape; their faces were downright chubby compared to what we see today. I promise you’ll recognize some models—Denise Richards, for one, who starred in a pull-out “dental health” booklet. (There were supplemental mini magazines about dental health!) The hair was big and the lipstick was pink; the models’ brow game was serious.

The advertisements in Teen matched the magazine’s style—sunny and carefree—and I remember them almost more than I remember the actual content: Love’s Baby Soft and Tribe!; Chill Out and Salon Selectives. There were Super Hair Searches and Sports Girl of the Year searches; multiple calls for girls to submit their photos, and I remember studying them intently as a kid, wondering how I’d match up if I were brave enough to submit my own photo. It was the thick of the supermodel generation, after all, where Kate Moss and Christy Turlington and the Taylor sisters were becoming household names. (In the December 1993 issue, Teen published the results of a reader poll, and girls said the women they most admired were their moms, their sisters, their friends, Hillary Clinton…and Cindy Crawford.)

Like many (most? All?) pre-teen girls, I was obsessed with getting my period. (Thanks, Judy Blume.) My memories had me convinced that Teen, too, was obsessed with it, but in rereading these three issues, I was clearly mistaken. Other than the occasional mention, and the Always-sponsored “advice” column (really an ad) in each issue, there wasn’t a lot of period talk.

Maybe that was Seventeen, I told myself after bingeing on three Teens and half a bottle of wine. (I am a lightweight these days.)

So back to eBay I went, for an old issue of Seventeen.

Seventeen Magazine: February 1993

If you follow fashion magazines at all, you know that the September issues are the best of the year. I fell in love with Seventeen during the summer of 1993, in between blaring the “Reality Bites” soundtrack and working at the local arcade. I couldn’t find that particular back-to-school issue for purposes of this trip down memory lane, but I did find the next best thing, which is the issue featuring Andrew Shue on the cover, because what girl who lived through the nineties didn’t have a crush on that do-gooder?

The thing about Seventeen is that it was so clearly talking to a different audience than Teen—older, cooler, more worldly. I distinctly felt like I had graduated from the bright neons of Teen to the plaid shirts, combat boots, mismatched florals of Seventeen; from a tinny tape deck blaring Whitney Houston to a skip-prone CD player blaring The Cranberries. Even the magazine’s fonts were different; more modern. Some of the clothes and accessories were attributed to what were surely expensive, hip stores in New York City, situated on Village corners that even now intimidate me (and I’ve lived here for years).

This particular issue celebrated Valentine’s Day with lots of romance tips and inspiring quotes from Dorothy Parker and Edna St. Vincent Millay. (I swooned at those now, but I’m sure they didn’t register with 14-year-old me.) Seventeen seemed to like its actresses; there was a profile of the three Wagner sisters (Katie, Courtney, and Natasha Gregson, the only one I knew), and there was a long interview with Wendy Benson, who starred in the short-lived drama “I’ll Fly Away” (I never saw it). In both pieces, the writers appeared so sure that these girls would be the Next Big Things that I felt mildly guilty for needing to IMDB each of them.

The Seventeen girl was more sophisticated than the Teen reader; that much is clear from this re-read. She understood things; she read between the lines. She didn’t have many more questions about her period, and she didn’t want Bonne Bell Lip Smackers. The Seventeen girl wore real lipstick, preferably something matte and purple-y to go with all those flannels. She wasn’t afraid to have streaked hair or smoky eyes—in fact, it was practically required. Your mother might not have liked the Seventeen girl, and of course, when you’re fourteen, that is part of the appeal.

Apart from fashion, makeup, and boys, Seventeen shared content about real issues. This issue in particular touched on abortion rights and hate crimes; Saddam Hussein had several mentions. And there was a blurb bemoaning the number of women in Congress (54 at the time). Unlike Teen, Seventeen wanted me to give a damn about the state of the world. It just wanted to make sure I was doing it in style.

That said, my memories of this issue were nowhere near as strong as my memories of Teen…and my level of enjoyment was less, too.

Now, listen. I have to bring up the elephant in the room now. And that elephant’s name is YM.

During my eBaying, vintage issues of YM kept popping up like a bad zit. (Or, more appropriate to my age, a stubborn gray hair.) The third magazine in the triumvirate of teen girl magazines (I’m purposely excluding Sassy, which ran for a mere fraction of time that Teen, Seventeen, and YM did, and anyway, Sassy was really in its own category), YM was like the quiet, slightly annoying neighbor that your mom always insisted you invite to your birthday parties just to be nice. It was always there, harmless and nondescript, and no one could quite remember why or how.  

I had to be fair. I bought an issue.

YM Magazine: September 1992

I first came across the August 1993 issue featuring Krissy Taylor (and Dan Cortese) on the cover. I felt a pop in my chest at the sight of her; even for casual readers of teen magazines in the nineties, Krissy and Niki Taylor were revered. Not revered enough for me to pay the ridiculous asking price for the magazine, though, so I had to settle for a Luke Perry issue. Considering I used to unironically wear a sweatshirt with Luke’s likeness airbrushed onto it, boardwalk style, in middle school, this was not the great sacrifice you are perhaps imagining.

Flipping through its pages I was struck by how classic, in a way, YM was. It didn’t feel dated the way Seventeen and especially Teen did…but it didn’t feel fresh, either, and certainly not urgent. It actually didn’t feel like much of anything. I just re-read the issue, and even still I can barely remember it.

Style-wise, the blue jeans were baggy and clinched and very blue, and the hair was shellacked and the lipstick was bright, but there was no defined palette, no personality. Page after page, I looked for something that would strike me – a memory, a model I recognized, an advice column I remembered – but not much of it resonated, then or now. Even the ads didn’t speak to me; I hadn’t been an LA Gear or Gitano girl.

This issue had lots of focus on the actual models, like Claudia Schiffer and Tyra Banks and Linda Evangelista, but even those features about the “real” lives of models felt off-tone. In retrospect I realize it’s because I didn’t care about the models necessarily; I cared about feeling like them, looking like them, imagining the kind of life where I’d be famous like them.

Lest you think I’m ripping on YM too much, I will say this: first, this issue had a whole section on getting a part-time job, which was very relatable and positions YM as a more serious, functional sort of teen magazine; and second, as someone who recently purchased some leopard print flats, I fully appreciated the “how to add leopard to your denims without looking dumb” feature, which was timeless and useful.

Ultimately, though, let’s just say I am very, very grateful that wine-soaked me had the smart financial sense to not purchase the Krissy Taylor issue. This Luke Perry one only set me back a few dollars.

Overall…

In 2014, The Hairpin ran “The Tragic History of Fallen Teen Magazines,” chronicling the rise and fall of these and others. Of Teen, they said, “it never had much of a personality.” I bristled reading that, but it’s probably true.

But maybe that’s why I loved it so much. In its pages, filled with a certain level of inanity but also an accessible camaraderie and a whispered promise that everything was going to be okay, Teen let me find whatever I was seeking at the time. It let me find me. 

A day off

March came in a like a stress lion for me; daily I found myself struggling to catch my breath and promising myself that things would settle soon, that I’d find time for a yoga class, that I’d stop hating myself for forgetting simple things.

When I found out family would be in town last Saturday, I called it: a day off. Even reserving it a month in advance does little to stem the mom guilt, that suffocation I feel whenever I leave my house without my girl. Mom guilt is the worst part of motherhood but the good news it it’s fleeting; by the time I picked up a coffee at a local bakery, I’d mostly moved on. I was ready for a day of nothing.

Nothing always begins with yoga. I tagged along to my sister’s favorite class, deep in Park Slope, a hefty hike away in the rain. I had taken a class the previous weekend, but it was at the Y, and it was restorative, which is basically an hour-long nap in various positions, so let’s not pretend that counted as any real workout. This, though, was a real class, one where my legs and shoulders burned and I panted. My head cleared. Poof. Namaste-urday.

Nothing continued with leftover pizza and magazine reading in my sister’s cozy apartment. She had work to do so, still in the rain, I left and found a coffee shop and enjoyed a latte and a croissant and a solitary hour with my laptop and no wifi, and got some writing done.

That is a midday treat, my friends.

In said coffee shop I saw a poster for "A Streetcar Named Desire" starring Gillian Anderson and coming to Brooklyn in just a few weeks. I texted a picture to my mom and sisters; last summer, I’d bought us all tickets for that very show and wrote about how it was one of the first times post-baby I’d said yes to future plans.

By mid afternoon, I felt fully restored. Also, my mom guilt had come roaring back. Sometimes it feels like it’s fine to leave my kid if I have actual things to do – work, of course, or a weekend vacation with friends, or a specific event. But when it’s just a Saturday in Brooklyn in the rain, when you’re just looking for something to fill the remaining hours, well…it starts to feel excessive.

It was time to go home.

Also, I couldn't stop playing peek-a-boo with the baby in the cafe.

Dance it out

For about 20 minutes every Friday evening, I am home alone. 

This is not a frequent occurrence in this life I've built. It only happens if I time my work departure well, if I duck out a few minutes early and catch the right train. If that happens, then I get home before my husband and my toddler, who are jamming away at baby music class. I walk in to an empty apartment, a tornado of toys and stuffed animals and sippy cups on my living room floor, to lights on in every room. 

There is always a text from my husband: I left a mess. Sorry. I'll clean it up. 

But I don't care about the mess, it can wait. Instead, I put on music and I throw myself a solo dance party, because goddammit, I deserve it. 

What I look like, probably.

These days I am all into Carly Rae Jepsen, because her new album is poppy and bright and makes me feel like I am running through a field of technicolor daisies, and I blare it and I shimmy and I jump and I slither and I laugh. I get excited. 

I am an old lady but I could move well, once. As a kid I danced and tumbled and cheered, and in my twenties you could find me in hotel bars, moving to whatever beat was playing, powered on dirty martinis and youth. 

When I was pregnant and on vacation with my friends I danced, we all danced, and I realized I had lost my rhythm. My balance was all off, what with my belly and all that excess energy and heat. And I don't think it's come back, because I can't quite find that rhythm-is-gonna-get-cha groove I used to find so easily. But I don't care. 

I love getting older, but if there's anything sad about it it's that your opportunities to dance just decrease. 

So I'm making my own opportunities. 

The arcade

The fact is, the tops of arcade machines get dusty, and someone has to clean them.

The first time I was assigned that duty, the summer of my fourteenth year while at my first job, I was momentarily stunned. Me? Climb on the chairs of the claw machines? Walk up the skeeball lane without slipping? I was so embarrassed, in that 14-year-old way.

But up there, crouching on top of the machines, I was afforded a whole new view. I could see the entire arcade, empty and gleaming. The machines were powered on; their songs were singing. Without the rush of the crowd, the arcade sounds were too loud, the colors too bright, the arcade too dark. My best friend was vacuuming; my sister was cleaning the doors and windows. Girls who would become close friends the next summer, when I wasn’t so shy, were wiping down counters and powering on lights. Outside it was sunny and bright, a perfect beach day, and I knew the shift would drag.

That was the summer Radiohead’s “Creep” played on the radio, and I would try to memorize the words while I was up there on those chairs, those ledges, dust flying. My first summer on my own, sort of. So I dusted and watched everyone else doing their morning chores. My rag turned grimy.

Mostly, from up there, I watched Billy. He was older. Even then I knew he wasn’t cute, but he was hot in that teenage boy way—all attitude and ego, all confidence none of us girls yet had. I didn’t like Billy, not really, but I knew I was supposed to—all the young girls did. Billy flirted with me, a lot. He stood closer than he needed to. Once, he grabbed my ass and I froze, hoping no one had seen. There were children around. Moms. Maybe even my mom.  

So that morning, dusting the machines, singing along to “Creep” and trying to block out the machine songs, I saw Billy come in—late—and disappear behind the office door, smirking. The skeeball and claw machines always got stuck, so certain staffers had keys to unstick them, and Billy would twirl those keys around and around, his other hand nestled in his coin apron. When he came back out to the floor, twirling those keys, he caught me looking and winked. I wanted to throw up.

Listen, he had spiky blond hair and this was the 90s, and my best friend was talking about sleeping with him, and I watched "Fast Times at Ridgemont High" a lot, and I hated that I knew what he was thinking every time he talked to me, or to any of us. I hated that wink.

Creep.

I don’t think Billy came back that next summer, or if he did, I don’t remember seeing him.